Hello, I’m new to this forum.
My mum has vascular dementia, she is 94. Lives alone with lots of support from me, my husband and Age UK day centre.
Unfortunately she is a little incontinent which would not be an issue if she was bathing/showering properly. She washes at the bathroom sink, but as my nurse friend says, you can’t clean all the cracks and crevices that way. .she won’t have a carer in her house to help her and I have to say, at this point, I do not want to be doing this personal care, I have arranged for her to bathe at age UK once a week, but she keeps refusing to do so. She no longer is willing or able to shower . Consequently, her clothes smell, she is not changing them enough, my attempts to make her change more and wash are met with hostility. her sofa smells so bad I have to wash my clothes after visiting her. I’ve had to be brutal and tell her she smells of urine, she said I don’t think I do. Well she has little sense of smell due to childhood illness.
Any suggestions before I go mad please.
Thanks for reading
Lynne
My mum has vascular dementia, she is 94. Lives alone with lots of support from me, my husband and Age UK day centre.
Unfortunately she is a little incontinent which would not be an issue if she was bathing/showering properly. She washes at the bathroom sink, but as my nurse friend says, you can’t clean all the cracks and crevices that way. .she won’t have a carer in her house to help her and I have to say, at this point, I do not want to be doing this personal care, I have arranged for her to bathe at age UK once a week, but she keeps refusing to do so. She no longer is willing or able to shower . Consequently, her clothes smell, she is not changing them enough, my attempts to make her change more and wash are met with hostility. her sofa smells so bad I have to wash my clothes after visiting her. I’ve had to be brutal and tell her she smells of urine, she said I don’t think I do. Well she has little sense of smell due to childhood illness.
Any suggestions before I go mad please.
Thanks for reading
Lynne