My lady friend of 85 has been in a Care Home in Surrey since the end of last October. I visit her about once week as the Care Home is some half an hour drive from my house. Bar about two visits every time she says that she wants to come home with me. The conversation on this topic is started by her. It goes something like this. Where is your car and I say in the front of the building. She says let go. I say that I cannot do it and you need to speak to the Manager and your younger daughter who lives in Northern Ireland. Her other two children live there. She even asked me to go to her bedroom on another occasion and started to put her coat on and pack her bag. She gets very annoyed with me when I say that I cannot take her to my home and follows it up by saying most times I do not want you here go home. The biggest concern is if she did come to my home she may say I am not returning to the Care Home and then what would one do. I presume some Homes allow their residents to have say possibly two nights away for a change of scene but dependant on their condition. What are other peoples experience in dealing with this situation.