Hello everyone. My name is Geoff. I am 77 years old and have been married to Kathleen for 57 years. We have one daughter, Samantha; 3 grandsons and their partners plus 3 great grandchildren. Sam lives about 3 miles away and the grandsons are fairly local. Kath's brother had Alzheimers disease and passed away 9 years ago. We were with him during his illness; resulting in him eventually going into a care home, where he passed away. Over the last 16 months or so, Samantha and I have noticed that Kath has gradually been showing signs of dementia -- short term memory has got worse. She has difficulty following story lines of her favourite characters in soaps on TV; or storylines; forgets daily ongoings of the family etc. She forgets to turn the bathroom taps off after a wash; forgets to screw tops on kitchen items and food. Her cooking skills have really worsened. When she eats, quite a lot of food spills from her mouth and spoils her clothing. She salivates a lot now from the side of her mouth. Kath has, unfortuantely, developed an extreme form of jealousy over the past 3 years, where she falsely believes that I am having an affair. This has caused a great deal of upset in our relationship. I am receiving support for this from a wellbeing nurse at our GP practice. Sam is aware of all these problems and gives me her full support.
Unfortunately, Kath refuses to go to our GP for either of the problems. I have spoken to our GP about this, who told me that, unless Kath agrees to talk to her GP, there is nothing ther can do, at the moment.
I have now decided to join this forum, at an early stage' and share my experiences with you. Both Sam and I know that Kath's dementia is going to get worse and I am prepared for a lot of what might happen, having experienced it with Kath's brother.
I think I can deal with most things apart from incontinence in the future.
I would welcome any support and advice that other members can offer me to assist me in the future.
GEOFF
Unfortunately, Kath refuses to go to our GP for either of the problems. I have spoken to our GP about this, who told me that, unless Kath agrees to talk to her GP, there is nothing ther can do, at the moment.
I have now decided to join this forum, at an early stage' and share my experiences with you. Both Sam and I know that Kath's dementia is going to get worse and I am prepared for a lot of what might happen, having experienced it with Kath's brother.
I think I can deal with most things apart from incontinence in the future.
I would welcome any support and advice that other members can offer me to assist me in the future.
GEOFF