Hello everyone!
My mum is 75 with middle stage Alzheimers and is being quite a handful at the moment. It's nothing I cannot handle but my older sister has had enough and cannot cope any more.
I currently live in Belfast and my sister and mum live in Sunderland. I fly over every Sunday to look after mum and fly back to Belfast on a Thursday when my sister takes over. We had mum in a care home for 8 months and she deteriated quite a lot she was gaunt, she lost weight and looked about 20 years older than she actually is. It's a long winded story but we had to go to court to actually get mum out of the home even though she was self funding.
My sister has had enough and says she cannot do it anymore and wants to send mum back albeit to a better home. I have told my sister that I am willing to take mum back to Belfast and she can live with me but she is now saying I cannot remove my mum from her jurisdiction, that I cannot remove my mum from her familiar surroundings and I cannot take her away from her siblings.
My argument is mum will be better cared for living with me, as I'm a chef she gets decent meals everyday I'm here we go out for walks and watch all the old TV shows and films together. We've seen what a care home done to mum the first time around and as for mums siblings only 1 of her brothers calls in twice a week for a few hours and her sister sees my mum once a month if that even though she's only a 15-20 minute walk away. Her other 2 bothers haven't seen her at all this year. Also I understand taking mum to Belfast will mean everything changes and she won't be in familiar surroundings but if she goes back into a care home then everything is going to be different for her anyway.
We both have power of attorney over mums health and finances but mum was put into a care home last time without my knowledge she was supposed to be going in for respite whi h lasted 9 months. Can I legally just take my mum out of her jurisdiction is my sister just saying that I can't? Surely being cared for by her son is better for her than a care home.
P.S sorry if my English and punctuation makes for hard reading it was never a strong subject of mine.
My mum is 75 with middle stage Alzheimers and is being quite a handful at the moment. It's nothing I cannot handle but my older sister has had enough and cannot cope any more.
I currently live in Belfast and my sister and mum live in Sunderland. I fly over every Sunday to look after mum and fly back to Belfast on a Thursday when my sister takes over. We had mum in a care home for 8 months and she deteriated quite a lot she was gaunt, she lost weight and looked about 20 years older than she actually is. It's a long winded story but we had to go to court to actually get mum out of the home even though she was self funding.
My sister has had enough and says she cannot do it anymore and wants to send mum back albeit to a better home. I have told my sister that I am willing to take mum back to Belfast and she can live with me but she is now saying I cannot remove my mum from her jurisdiction, that I cannot remove my mum from her familiar surroundings and I cannot take her away from her siblings.
My argument is mum will be better cared for living with me, as I'm a chef she gets decent meals everyday I'm here we go out for walks and watch all the old TV shows and films together. We've seen what a care home done to mum the first time around and as for mums siblings only 1 of her brothers calls in twice a week for a few hours and her sister sees my mum once a month if that even though she's only a 15-20 minute walk away. Her other 2 bothers haven't seen her at all this year. Also I understand taking mum to Belfast will mean everything changes and she won't be in familiar surroundings but if she goes back into a care home then everything is going to be different for her anyway.
We both have power of attorney over mums health and finances but mum was put into a care home last time without my knowledge she was supposed to be going in for respite whi h lasted 9 months. Can I legally just take my mum out of her jurisdiction is my sister just saying that I can't? Surely being cared for by her son is better for her than a care home.
P.S sorry if my English and punctuation makes for hard reading it was never a strong subject of mine.