Hi,
I would greatly appreciate any information and thoughts on my parents’ situation, which is as follows:
My Dad’s 90 years old and my Mum’s 85. My Mum’s got dementia and my Dad is my Mum’s carer. My Dad’s fairly active and still drives a car, but he does have health problems of his own, e.g. rheumatoid arthritis…and he’s rather deaf and won’t wear his hearing aid, so communicating with him is difficult, especially over the phone.
My Mum didn’t do a power of attorney while she was still legally capable of doing so and now my Dad is considering going to the Court of Protection to become her Deputy and wants me to be a Deputy with him. I’m disabled and don’t live near them and travelling is difficult and very painful for me (they are in Essex and I’m in Berkshire) – So, I am not sure that I am physically up to being a Deputy, but mentally I’m fine and I can write letters and make phone calls on their behalf.
· If my Dad and/or I don’t apply for Deputyship and my Mum needs to go into a home because my Dad can’t cope with looking after her any more, if we contacted social services at that point, would there be an obligation on them to take out a Deputyship? (My Mum is co-owner with my Dad of their house and she has money in the bank in just her name and so would have to pay – at least to begin with - for her care home fees and, of course, at the moment my Dad doesn’t have access to her money.)
If my Dad and/or I applied for Deputyship…
· Would we be likely to be turned down because the Court of Protection might consider the responsibility of Deputyship too onerous for my Dad to cope with at his great age and with regard to his own health conditions and because I am not physically up to accompanying my Mum to hospital appointments, going to her bank etc?
· Would the Court of Protection be likely to turn my Dad and me down because my Mum didn’t opt for us to be her attorneys when she was legally capable of making such decisions and from that assume that she didn’t/wouldn’t want us to act on her behalf?
· If the Court of Protection were to turn us down as Deputies - with us having had to prove to them (as part of the application) that she is incapable of looking after herself - would they Court be likely to take over and appoint a Deputy from their court staff…or perhaps ask the Local Authority to act as Deputy on my Mum’s behalf?
· Does applying for Deputyship or being a Deputy entail actually ever attending the Court of Protection in London at all? (This would be difficult for me because of my disabilities and exhausting for my 90 year old Dad.)
Thank you in advance for any advice anyone can give me about this.
I would greatly appreciate any information and thoughts on my parents’ situation, which is as follows:
My Dad’s 90 years old and my Mum’s 85. My Mum’s got dementia and my Dad is my Mum’s carer. My Dad’s fairly active and still drives a car, but he does have health problems of his own, e.g. rheumatoid arthritis…and he’s rather deaf and won’t wear his hearing aid, so communicating with him is difficult, especially over the phone.
My Mum didn’t do a power of attorney while she was still legally capable of doing so and now my Dad is considering going to the Court of Protection to become her Deputy and wants me to be a Deputy with him. I’m disabled and don’t live near them and travelling is difficult and very painful for me (they are in Essex and I’m in Berkshire) – So, I am not sure that I am physically up to being a Deputy, but mentally I’m fine and I can write letters and make phone calls on their behalf.
· If my Dad and/or I don’t apply for Deputyship and my Mum needs to go into a home because my Dad can’t cope with looking after her any more, if we contacted social services at that point, would there be an obligation on them to take out a Deputyship? (My Mum is co-owner with my Dad of their house and she has money in the bank in just her name and so would have to pay – at least to begin with - for her care home fees and, of course, at the moment my Dad doesn’t have access to her money.)
If my Dad and/or I applied for Deputyship…
· Would we be likely to be turned down because the Court of Protection might consider the responsibility of Deputyship too onerous for my Dad to cope with at his great age and with regard to his own health conditions and because I am not physically up to accompanying my Mum to hospital appointments, going to her bank etc?
· Would the Court of Protection be likely to turn my Dad and me down because my Mum didn’t opt for us to be her attorneys when she was legally capable of making such decisions and from that assume that she didn’t/wouldn’t want us to act on her behalf?
· If the Court of Protection were to turn us down as Deputies - with us having had to prove to them (as part of the application) that she is incapable of looking after herself - would they Court be likely to take over and appoint a Deputy from their court staff…or perhaps ask the Local Authority to act as Deputy on my Mum’s behalf?
· Does applying for Deputyship or being a Deputy entail actually ever attending the Court of Protection in London at all? (This would be difficult for me because of my disabilities and exhausting for my 90 year old Dad.)
Thank you in advance for any advice anyone can give me about this.
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