Hi, Mum is 89 with vascular dementia. She lives with me and my husband and has done for 25 years. Im finding it increasingly hard to cope. These days she has no conversational qualities, lives in the past, and is always looking for her children. she is very restless at night and will come to speak to us many many times about this. One night we found her in the hall with the front door open on her way to go to Stratford( this is where she lived as a child) She has recently started new meds for dementia and im not sure if they are making things worse. she has become mildly aggressive and swears at us all. Does anyone have any advice on how to calm her down or settle her at night? Do I agree with her and say the children are here and safe or try to explain they are grown up? I had a complete meltdown this week. Feeling as if I am not coping at the mo. I have fibromyalgia which is pain and fatigue constantly. I feel ill in myself a lot of the time and am considering respite for mum so we can have a break. Any advice would be welcome. thanks