Been here!! Mum lived alone when dad died and I was struggling to cope with an hour and hafl round trip daily to care for her, not taking into account all the calls in the early hours and mess to clean up when I arrived at hers! You could not though mention moving to my mum, she would go ballistic. Hates change, always has even before dementia and with no support from my 3 brothers, took the decision to sell her house without her knowledge. I do have LPA which you will need if you're to do this and it was the most stressful time of my life, getting mum out of the house for the open day viewings when she didn't want to go!!!! But fortunately only needed one open day and the house was sold. Packing up the house was another stress and I only managed to empty a few cupboards on the sly but when moving day came, we arrived mob handed and just emptied the house and mum just walked away accepting this was happening. Couldn't believe how easy it was. My mum was so dramatic beforehand saying she would die if we moved her away. Well she hasn't, she's thrived!! We bought a bungalow, had to do it in her name due to the fact she did not have capacity to sign anything but we've made it our home and now 2 and 1/2 years down the line we have lots of help and it certainly made my life easier in many respects, still other issues though of course as you will have her 24/7 but the worry and stress of leaving mum alone was allieviated. Sounds horrid to say but put yourself first and do what is right for you and if that means moving your mum do it! I wish you good luck x