Hello
@Trackyj and welcome to Talking Point
i want to go home, help me or I want my mum and dad
My mum used to say this too. She wanted me to help her go back to her childhood home (which was bombed in the war) where she was convinced that "all her family" (by which she meant her parents and siblings - all long dead) were "just waiting for her". Truly a mission impossible!
This is almost universal in the later stages of dementia. What they are really asking for, though, is to escape the confusion of dementia. They cannot understand why they feel confused and think it is due to where they are living, so they want to go back to a time and place where they felt safe (usually a childhood home) because they think that if they move away then they will leave all the confusion behind.
It is very difficult to move them on from this thinking. Trying to reason with them wont work and often distraction doesnt either. Have you tried saying "yes, we will get you home soon - we are working on it" and not going into any more details?