After several increasingly tough years of caring for my husband, he has had nearly a month of respite care in a nearby care home but it is soon coming to an end.
He is a very difficult person to manage physically and is ridiculously strong but the care home has pulled out al! the stops to make it work (initially it took 3 staff - probably half their staff as it's a 26 room place) but somehow they have managed safely whereas at home, I was not managing at all.
I have visited 3 x a week and it is lovely to see him looking well cared for.
I'm dreading the end of his respite place now.
It took me a full 2 weeks to feel even a bit normal after years of sleep deprivation and stress.
A big factor for me is - I have rheumatoid arthritis and for several years it was in remission (constant medication though) then it became flagged up as mildly active via routine blood tests.
On the day he went to his respite placement, my blood tests came back as showing the R A was highly active - and I could tell as my fingers, wrists, elbows, toes were very painful plus feeling flu like symptoms
He's due back next week but I don't think I will cope. I don't feel strong yet.
I have spoken three times over a week to the Social Worker who makes the placements who has referred it on to the team....
What has anyone done in a similar situation?
He is a very difficult person to manage physically and is ridiculously strong but the care home has pulled out al! the stops to make it work (initially it took 3 staff - probably half their staff as it's a 26 room place) but somehow they have managed safely whereas at home, I was not managing at all.
I have visited 3 x a week and it is lovely to see him looking well cared for.
I'm dreading the end of his respite place now.
It took me a full 2 weeks to feel even a bit normal after years of sleep deprivation and stress.
A big factor for me is - I have rheumatoid arthritis and for several years it was in remission (constant medication though) then it became flagged up as mildly active via routine blood tests.
On the day he went to his respite placement, my blood tests came back as showing the R A was highly active - and I could tell as my fingers, wrists, elbows, toes were very painful plus feeling flu like symptoms
He's due back next week but I don't think I will cope. I don't feel strong yet.
I have spoken three times over a week to the Social Worker who makes the placements who has referred it on to the team....
What has anyone done in a similar situation?