Thank you Hair Twiddler, sorry for being on your mind
, as if we haven't got enough to think about.
My sister has sent the DVLA letter... so we shall see how long it takes for a reaction from them.
My neighbours (I live in an old converted flat) already know about MiL and Alz, but not how bad it can be....
Like so many she's learnt to be very 'good at' covering up... as long as things are going her way.
They will find it difficult to turn away 'a little old lady' on their doorstep, if she turns on the fake tears.
I live on the ground floor, and unless I keep my curtains closed... she'll walk around the building...
looking for me, and bang on the window when she sees me. Already tried 'ignoring'
, it didn't work !!
I've been in this family for decades, as even though I am a widow, they are still 'family'.
When my husband had VaD (and several strokes) they treated us both appallingly.
They couldn't handle it, refused to talk about it ... out of sight out of mind...
Far too many things happened that I will never get over, nor discuss...
My in laws, even though they know about Alz, think it will ..... actually, I don't know what they think...
If they don't talk about it... its not happening.
They do have some input, but not enough... and shockingly, at times, they think it's funny !!
I don't know why I feel compelled to help MiL...but I grew up in an extended family caring for relatives...
I'd like to help arrange a Care Package, but don't want to actually be involved as part of the plan.
SS and SW will expect me to be part of the plan.... so I may have to say, I'm moving house...
and.... I have horrific memories of how SW treated my husband and I (you couldn't make it up)
which is putting me off helping arrange care.
Thank you everyone for reading this rambling.