When assessment is done will I be allowed to be present to hear what is said? Will I be asked anything? Can I challenge a decision?
Hi @yorkie46, before the nurse did the initial assessment my husband was asked if it was ok for them to speak to me. I was sent a questionnaire, and was also present at the beginning of the assessment.When assessment is done will I be allowed to be present to hear what is said? Will I be asked anything? Can I challenge a decision?
Hi! I have the same problem with dad. The doctor says he has” fluctuating capacity “. So I cannot support dad into a care home. I managed to get him into a care home for a month nearly 19 months ago. He wasn’t so bad then. Now he cannot walk . He struggles to assist himself with lifting his drinks and food. He has no overnight care and is sometimes incontinent overnight. A nice surprise for the carers. He has carers 4 x a day. I have just finished looking after him full time in June.Dad sleeps a lot now too. I’m not sure if you have carers in but if not it might been an idea. I gave up as I could no longer cope so I understand where you are coming from..Thank you all for your replies. Things have changed a little since my original post! The social worker who was going to do the mental capacity assessment phoned me. She said she didn't think it was a good idea to go down that route at the moment because if she assessed him as not having mental capacity what would they do with it. She said as I hold power of attorney I have the power to make decisions about what is best for him. She said she would like to visit us both to have a frank conversation about his care needs, how they can best be met and how they impact me. She suggested possible options to me, befriender, sitter, carer, day centre or care home. She said she would like him to agree to one of the options voluntarily because that would make it much easier. If he refuses everything the decision will rest with me it seems. She did say if necessary she would make a further visit to do a mental capacity assessment but hopes that won't be necessary. To me it seems they really don't want to do anything but want to push everything back into me and the power of attorney. This document states that cannot be out into a care home unless a doctor states that he is unable to live independently. I therefore assume cannot make this decision unless a doctor is prepared to state this.
I know the last thing my husband wants is to go into a care home and in an ideal world I wouldn't want this either. However if he won't accept any of the other options I fear this will soon be the only option. I spoke to admiral nurse about it and she agreed I can't drag him kicking and screaming into care. I'm sure he probably doesn't understand about the power of attorney and I would really prefer not to use it. It is registered but I have never had occasion to use it yet though it's almost the first thing professionals ask about!
The current situation is that his mobility is very poor and getting worse, he walks with a frame. He is no longer safe to access the shower, he sometimes doesn't get to the toilet in time, he spends all his day sitting watching tv and sleeping. He is unable to get outside because of his poor mobility and the way out outside space is laid out. He cannot get down our steep drive so I can't get him to the car. He doesn't understand all this and sometimes talks about me taking him out somewhere. I don't feel able to leave him for much more than an hour at a time. If I go out I put his call alarm on but he sometimes takes it off. He often thinks We are somewhere else, not in our own home. I feel his quality of life is poor and would probably be better in a good care home.
I hope someone canker me know their thoughts on all of this!
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