Since my dad was in hospital and then ended up in a care home we have to look our mam 24/7 as she has Alzheimers and vascular dementia she can barely make herself a cup of coffee we take turns in sleeping over but it's putting a strain on us all because we have other commitments with our own families. We done seem to receive a lot of help or advice, we are looking for a home care package but can't find the right one things just seem to be getting harder and when one of us goes on holiday it puts real pressure on the others to cope while they are away. Don't seem to be able to find any solutions to help us.