Hi my mum was diagnosed 4.5 years ago ( although we had noticed changes prior to this and recommended she get checked out ) she has a long term partner who is her primary carer. He took her for a taster day at a day center and left her there with no ID / phone / money keys.
She remebered my address vaguely and came to live with me for a week after staff found me by chance thankfully, the reason she had to live with me was because he refused to allow her home which after nasty phone calls it sounds like he had no interest in her returning and told her not to come to the home ( which she half owned). Obviously social services got involved and we agreed on some respite and help back at home once her partner would allow it.
Long story he got her out of respite early and returned to the home and refused carers due to not wanting to pay for it after social services enquired about finances. The funds are there for her to have help & care and should be used for this.
Hes now made it his mission to sort her LPA which was not sorted prior to this incident have (new will meetings this was all sorted previously)
He’s told other members of family that my mum wanted her children on her LPA but that the physiatrist has refused them being her attorney? Due to where they live or how often they visit ( which is most weeks )Has anyone had experience of this. I’ve spoken to OPG and they have said she can have anyone. Obviously are concern is her partner who we cannot be around due to their violent and threatening behaviour has ill intentions for being LPA but my mum is stuck in this coercive control environment and can’t see or understand what’s happening. We are just really worried as he does not nor in the past acted in her best interest and is only wanting to do this due to the financial aspect which again should be allowing her to have care and support .
She remebered my address vaguely and came to live with me for a week after staff found me by chance thankfully, the reason she had to live with me was because he refused to allow her home which after nasty phone calls it sounds like he had no interest in her returning and told her not to come to the home ( which she half owned). Obviously social services got involved and we agreed on some respite and help back at home once her partner would allow it.
Long story he got her out of respite early and returned to the home and refused carers due to not wanting to pay for it after social services enquired about finances. The funds are there for her to have help & care and should be used for this.
Hes now made it his mission to sort her LPA which was not sorted prior to this incident have (new will meetings this was all sorted previously)
He’s told other members of family that my mum wanted her children on her LPA but that the physiatrist has refused them being her attorney? Due to where they live or how often they visit ( which is most weeks )Has anyone had experience of this. I’ve spoken to OPG and they have said she can have anyone. Obviously are concern is her partner who we cannot be around due to their violent and threatening behaviour has ill intentions for being LPA but my mum is stuck in this coercive control environment and can’t see or understand what’s happening. We are just really worried as he does not nor in the past acted in her best interest and is only wanting to do this due to the financial aspect which again should be allowing her to have care and support .