Apologies in advance, this will be a long post.
Brief background:
Husband was admitted to a mental health hospital last Spring due to an overdose where he was diagnosed with vascular dementia - due to a major stroke in June 2020, and behavioural problems since then. A DOLS order was in place whilst he was in hospital in 2020.
Discharged home June 2023 under Section 117 aftercare. Emergency respite needed December 2023 for 2 weeks.
Due to behavioural issues emergency respite started April 2024 where he remains today.
CPN visited the care home a few weeks ago to tell him that he wouldn't be coming home and supported accommodation would be best. Husband didn't deal with this well and rang me constantly very upset. He has since forgotten the conversation believing he will come home.
Fast forward to last Tuesday where the Social Workers carried out an assessment at the home. This is the first time they have met him. The CPN and care home nurse were present. Care Home stated he would find it difficult to cope at home and the set routines were good for him.
Social Worker asked husbands wishes, he said he wants to come home. That was taken as a clear intention so legal advice to be sought as I said I couldn't cope and wouldn't agree to a trial period at home. CPN stated that would set us up to fail and could last possibly for just a few hours.
Spoke to CPN on the telephone this morning. Next date for the meeting tbc but possibly next Wednesday. He advised that the Social is seeking legal advice and that it would be up to me to tell my husband that he can't come home. He saw my husband in the home yesterday and said he was fine.
I questioned why he told my husband he couldn't come home previously and that it's at odds with what's happening now. His reply was that was then and husband is presenting differently now.
I'm sat here in tears, fearful of what will happen next week. Their support has been withdrawn and it's now all on my shoulders.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Brief background:
Husband was admitted to a mental health hospital last Spring due to an overdose where he was diagnosed with vascular dementia - due to a major stroke in June 2020, and behavioural problems since then. A DOLS order was in place whilst he was in hospital in 2020.
Discharged home June 2023 under Section 117 aftercare. Emergency respite needed December 2023 for 2 weeks.
Due to behavioural issues emergency respite started April 2024 where he remains today.
CPN visited the care home a few weeks ago to tell him that he wouldn't be coming home and supported accommodation would be best. Husband didn't deal with this well and rang me constantly very upset. He has since forgotten the conversation believing he will come home.
Fast forward to last Tuesday where the Social Workers carried out an assessment at the home. This is the first time they have met him. The CPN and care home nurse were present. Care Home stated he would find it difficult to cope at home and the set routines were good for him.
Social Worker asked husbands wishes, he said he wants to come home. That was taken as a clear intention so legal advice to be sought as I said I couldn't cope and wouldn't agree to a trial period at home. CPN stated that would set us up to fail and could last possibly for just a few hours.
Spoke to CPN on the telephone this morning. Next date for the meeting tbc but possibly next Wednesday. He advised that the Social is seeking legal advice and that it would be up to me to tell my husband that he can't come home. He saw my husband in the home yesterday and said he was fine.
I questioned why he told my husband he couldn't come home previously and that it's at odds with what's happening now. His reply was that was then and husband is presenting differently now.
I'm sat here in tears, fearful of what will happen next week. Their support has been withdrawn and it's now all on my shoulders.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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