Hi all,
I always appreciate the support and advice on here as I forever worry about my Mum.
She's in a home and in the last few months she has become chairbound and has to be helped around by the staff. She has up days and down days where she'll either smile and say things or be very confused by those around here and maybe not show any cheerful facial expression at all.
Last week there was a concern where she stayed in her room and my Dad arrived to find the curtains closed. The medics arrived and advised she had an infection and provided some antibiotics that could be administered with a dropped (she refuses to take pills or tablets).
She has sores apparently owing to the sedentary life she now has but they suggested this might be thrush in her mouth. Since the diagnosis around Tuesday last week she has been up and down. When visited she has either been asleep and not responsive or she has been a bit perky and smiley and talkative.
It just worries me so much about the effect any infections could have as I know pneumonia can be deadly. They don't seem to be ringing any alarm bells as yet and I didn't know what normally happens in this sort of case. If there was a major concern would she be taken to hospital?
My dilemma is that I live 200 miles away so it can be difficult to get there. I visit once a month or every other month and rely on feedback from my family that are local to her. I don't know whether to take sick leave from work to rush down for a couple of days this week or if it's just something that'll pass.
It seems really difficult to tell how close she is to her last days, I just don't know what to expect and forever live in fear on 'that call' to say we've lost her.
I always appreciate the support and advice on here as I forever worry about my Mum.
She's in a home and in the last few months she has become chairbound and has to be helped around by the staff. She has up days and down days where she'll either smile and say things or be very confused by those around here and maybe not show any cheerful facial expression at all.
Last week there was a concern where she stayed in her room and my Dad arrived to find the curtains closed. The medics arrived and advised she had an infection and provided some antibiotics that could be administered with a dropped (she refuses to take pills or tablets).
She has sores apparently owing to the sedentary life she now has but they suggested this might be thrush in her mouth. Since the diagnosis around Tuesday last week she has been up and down. When visited she has either been asleep and not responsive or she has been a bit perky and smiley and talkative.
It just worries me so much about the effect any infections could have as I know pneumonia can be deadly. They don't seem to be ringing any alarm bells as yet and I didn't know what normally happens in this sort of case. If there was a major concern would she be taken to hospital?
My dilemma is that I live 200 miles away so it can be difficult to get there. I visit once a month or every other month and rely on feedback from my family that are local to her. I don't know whether to take sick leave from work to rush down for a couple of days this week or if it's just something that'll pass.
It seems really difficult to tell how close she is to her last days, I just don't know what to expect and forever live in fear on 'that call' to say we've lost her.
