After my brother and myself looking after mam for the past 5 years, she goes into a carehome on Tuesday.
Even without the advancing dementia and the "need" to get the babies home (wandering!), she was struggling to manage the stairs and was repeatedly falling out of bed.
Its a lovely carehome, she will have company, a garden and care and although she doesnt want to leave her home we know its for the best. We have had to lie and say its just a 2 day assessment. When we have tried to broach the carehome subject before she gets so distressed and very agitated that we knew there was no way we could get her there calmly (..major guilt!!)
I just feel really emotional. I think its hitting home. Everytime I go to see her I am acutely aware it is the last Saturday, Sunday, last drive to her house with her there etc
Maybe its because its the end of this section of our lives, maybe its guilt, and even a little relief that I can "standdown"( more guilt 😔)
I know i wont be alone feeling like this, but just wanted to write it down and share. Thank you for reading. I will post an update when we get to the other side.
Even without the advancing dementia and the "need" to get the babies home (wandering!), she was struggling to manage the stairs and was repeatedly falling out of bed.
Its a lovely carehome, she will have company, a garden and care and although she doesnt want to leave her home we know its for the best. We have had to lie and say its just a 2 day assessment. When we have tried to broach the carehome subject before she gets so distressed and very agitated that we knew there was no way we could get her there calmly (..major guilt!!)
I just feel really emotional. I think its hitting home. Everytime I go to see her I am acutely aware it is the last Saturday, Sunday, last drive to her house with her there etc
Maybe its because its the end of this section of our lives, maybe its guilt, and even a little relief that I can "standdown"( more guilt 😔)
I know i wont be alone feeling like this, but just wanted to write it down and share. Thank you for reading. I will post an update when we get to the other side.