Its a bit awkward to know what to say being first message. My mother is 91 and fisty!! at the moment i have to go and have a new knee op and im finding it hard to explain to her that i will not be able to see for a while!! she is in denial and says she can get her own shopping and walk over to see me - and she cant.!! every sat i check and throw food away and then take her shopping for fresh fruit, milk etc. she has 4 meals on wheels a week. there is no one to take her shopping and deal with her like i do - or am i being over protective!! im so concerned. she doesnt cook, wash her clothes, clean. I have to remind her to change her bed and do her washing, i do her cleaning. she has a bath at the day centre she goes to once a week. I asked her if she would have meals every day while i cant see her ande she said no! what do i do. Any advice please