My brother who is carer for me Mother who has dementia has died suddenly. My Mother was with him when he died she was completely distressed and was banging her head against the wall. She was present during paramedics, doctors and coroners assistance. The morning after she had forgotten all about it and my concern is should I distress her again and tell her of his death or tell lies to her and keep her away from his funeral. Some of the family agree to this, the remainder think I should tell her the truth? I am trying to cope with my own grief but do not want o cause my lovely Mum any more distress.