This is appalling. The system is completely broken. I feel for you and your Dad. So much unnecessary suffering to all involved. The unfortunate thing is your Dad is still making his way back home after his wanderings. Apparently they take more notice when he doesn't make it back. To wait for that scenario is just awful. ’Capacity can fluctuate’…..I’ll be ready for that one. In the meantime, we reluctantly watch our loved ones struggle sometimes, just so we can add something else to the list of why they’re not coping at home…We provided a 6 page letter with accompanying photos; testimony from people who know my Dad well and have done for 30+ years (but are not family) and the geriatric consultant on his ward submitted a complaint about the outcome of the capacity assessment. All that happened was that they doubled down and kept repeating the mantra "capacity can fluctuate" without actually doing anything. All they've done is made my life hell; placed carers at risk from his aggression and left him in a vulnerable position. He's lost a considerable amount of weight since he was discharged via this care assessment but he refuses to eat or drink anything that carers give him. But he has capacity, right? But not if it involves any medical care, he doesn't, apparently.
I’ve just observed Mum allowing a stranger in the house….another tick for us! Don’t worry, we were with her on Ring and he was a salesman who quickly realised it wasn’t going to go anywhere…..but it only takes a minute for something awful to happen…….we have video evidence, and it was a short moment. We had to let it happen to get the evidence…it’s just ridiculous and now Mum thinks someone has knocked on her door to buy her house….we’re in for one of those days now…but we’ve got another tick for SS. It’s pathetic.