Mom is now in a lovely care home after having absolutely no help
From SS I bypassed them and found her a place as she is a danger being left in her own home.
It all happened very quickly and now two weeks later her house is emptied and up for sale and the home say she is settling well. Of course now I am having massive guilt about it all even though I know it's the right decision and worry how often I visit.
Her short term memory is almost nil and I have a feeling she forgets we have visited. So far I have been three times in the 16 days. The home hinted by way of telling me about another resident that going too often is unsettling but I feel guilty as I went to moms almost every other day as there was always some crisis to deal with including cleaning the bathroom and so on as she cannot use the loo now without help as she can't wipe herself properly and makes a terrible mess.
So all this leads to me ask what do others do? Thanks for reading this far.
From SS I bypassed them and found her a place as she is a danger being left in her own home.
It all happened very quickly and now two weeks later her house is emptied and up for sale and the home say she is settling well. Of course now I am having massive guilt about it all even though I know it's the right decision and worry how often I visit.
Her short term memory is almost nil and I have a feeling she forgets we have visited. So far I have been three times in the 16 days. The home hinted by way of telling me about another resident that going too often is unsettling but I feel guilty as I went to moms almost every other day as there was always some crisis to deal with including cleaning the bathroom and so on as she cannot use the loo now without help as she can't wipe herself properly and makes a terrible mess.
So all this leads to me ask what do others do? Thanks for reading this far.