My dad has been in a residential home with Alzheimer's. Lately the home have said they can no longer care for him so I was advised to look for an EMI care setting. Spent hours ringing around to see who has beds, found one nearby and visited and all seemed well. In the meantime they needed the nursing report before admitting him.
This having come through I am shocked, it mentions sexually inappropriate behaviour that has never been mentioned by his current home before. Now the EMI home, having received this, say that they haven't got any availability! I think they don't want him/he is too much of a difficult case to take on. I also wonder if his current home have exaggerated his current issues! They have said before he can be aggressive but I didn't know about sexually inappropriate behaviour!
He has been physically aggressive to staff but despite assaulting staff he hasn't been sectioned. In the meantime, and as he is self-funded, it is just up to me to ring around EMI nursing homes to see if they have rooms and secondly, if they will accept him and can deal with his behaviours.
On ringing more EMI homes, I can't find one yet that will take him. I feel so alone. Are you more left to it if the relative is self funding? I have spoken to the social worker but the home recommended will not have him either, having seen the report. It's all very upsetting, this is not my dad how I know him. Such an awful disease.
I am also worried about when the time comes, transferring him from his residential home to a nursing home, it just seems left up to me to take him? I'm not sure he would cope in a car and may prove too distracting and dangerous! I hope somewhere can take him soon and he obviously can't leave his residential home until somewhere else has been found, but it is so stressful finding somewhere that are happy to take him and can meet his needs and keep everyone safe.
This having come through I am shocked, it mentions sexually inappropriate behaviour that has never been mentioned by his current home before. Now the EMI home, having received this, say that they haven't got any availability! I think they don't want him/he is too much of a difficult case to take on. I also wonder if his current home have exaggerated his current issues! They have said before he can be aggressive but I didn't know about sexually inappropriate behaviour!
He has been physically aggressive to staff but despite assaulting staff he hasn't been sectioned. In the meantime, and as he is self-funded, it is just up to me to ring around EMI nursing homes to see if they have rooms and secondly, if they will accept him and can deal with his behaviours.
On ringing more EMI homes, I can't find one yet that will take him. I feel so alone. Are you more left to it if the relative is self funding? I have spoken to the social worker but the home recommended will not have him either, having seen the report. It's all very upsetting, this is not my dad how I know him. Such an awful disease.
I am also worried about when the time comes, transferring him from his residential home to a nursing home, it just seems left up to me to take him? I'm not sure he would cope in a car and may prove too distracting and dangerous! I hope somewhere can take him soon and he obviously can't leave his residential home until somewhere else has been found, but it is so stressful finding somewhere that are happy to take him and can meet his needs and keep everyone safe.