Hi there
My mum was diagnosed with dementia about a year and a half ago, and because I've been close to mum, it kind of breaks my heart. The family felt overall that it was best to move mum to be closer to another branch of the family to receive care from them (a long way from where mum originally lived - so she now lives in Scotland, also a long way from me). I'm always trying to work on ways to deal with it.
I find that it helps me, and seems to help her, to be in regular contact - for example, since visiting her last week for a week, I've been phoning/speaking to her everyday since then. Mum's sleep seems to have been very disrupted and she seems to have had low mood since I left.
Can I ask - do many other members contact their close relatives at similar regularity by phone/video call?
I don't want to create issues for the carers by speaking so regularly, or new dependencies on me.
I do feel that speaking to her regularly at the moment helps mum however, and I also feel that it helps me - by having a nice conversation which supports and cheers mum up, but also by reminding me of the reality of the situation.
Is it common and healthy for other members to speak to their relatives with dementia every day by phone/video call (including if they are in a care home)?
thanks
Kevin
My mum was diagnosed with dementia about a year and a half ago, and because I've been close to mum, it kind of breaks my heart. The family felt overall that it was best to move mum to be closer to another branch of the family to receive care from them (a long way from where mum originally lived - so she now lives in Scotland, also a long way from me). I'm always trying to work on ways to deal with it.
I find that it helps me, and seems to help her, to be in regular contact - for example, since visiting her last week for a week, I've been phoning/speaking to her everyday since then. Mum's sleep seems to have been very disrupted and she seems to have had low mood since I left.
Can I ask - do many other members contact their close relatives at similar regularity by phone/video call?
I don't want to create issues for the carers by speaking so regularly, or new dependencies on me.
I do feel that speaking to her regularly at the moment helps mum however, and I also feel that it helps me - by having a nice conversation which supports and cheers mum up, but also by reminding me of the reality of the situation.
Is it common and healthy for other members to speak to their relatives with dementia every day by phone/video call (including if they are in a care home)?
thanks
Kevin