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[Highlo]

I am my husband's carer. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's two years ago. His mobility is declining, slow shuffling and round shoulders head down. I am smaller than my husband and find dressing him and supporting him when walking difficult. Bathing and changing sheets, pull ups / pads and pyjamas is challenging. He resists my attempts. to change him when wet and has started to push me away forcefully.
Having said that we do some good days.
We go out to sing once a week, meet friends friends friends

 

[karaokePete]

Hello and welcome @Highlo

It is hard isn't it. The good days/bad days is par for the course and I take solace in the good days to see me through the bad.

I hope you have time to take a good look around the site as it's a goldmine for information.

 

[Highlo]

Thanks for the welcome.

 

[SkyeD]

Welcome from me too @Highlo

I found people on this forum really supportive when I cared for my mum. She sadly died a year ago, but I'm still on here to support others. If you have anything that you need to say/ask, or even rant about, please keep posting as I'm sure everyone will be happy to help.
S x

 

[Louise7]

Hello @Highlo and welcome to the Forum which is a great place for getting friendly support from people who understand. From what you have posted it does sound as though things are getting more difficult for you both, and you could perhaps do with some extra help at home now to help with the more challenging aspects of your husband's personal care. Sometimes receiving help with washing, dressing etc from a 'professional' carer, rather than a partner or family member, can help to reduce challenging behaviour, so it may be worth thinking about getting some help in. If you haven't already done so, you can contact your local adult social services team to request a care needs assessment for your husband and a carer assessment for you(see link below). Hope this helps, but do keep posting as members here are happy to offer help and advice if they can, you are not on your own here.

The care needs assessment: support for people with dementia

This page looks at how a person with dementia can get a care assessment, who does an assessment, how they are carried out, who makes the decision, and tips for making the most of the care needs assessment. It also explains the eligibility criteria.

www.alzheimers.org.uk