Good evening all, I came to this forum because my grief won't let me sleep. It also gets in the way of work and most forms of concentration during the day. My mum's Alzheimer's got much worse rapidly after she suffered an extensive stroke 3 months ago. At the beginning it was difficult to tell which symptoms were provoked by the stroke and which ones were Alzheimer's, but it quickly became apparent that she moved to the last stage of the illness within only three months. At the time of the stroke I was still getting used to the diagnosis of an early onset of dementia and was plunged with the entire family into this parallel universe where my mother is quickly disappearing into the disease. What a strange world it is where one grieves for a parent while they are still alive. It's such a dissonance that my brain really can't cope with it at times. I almost would like to forget about the whole issue myself. I also almost look forward to the moment when my mum will not recognise me because at least then she will be at peace (or I, it's hard to tell the difference nowadays). I am just wondering how other members of this forum are coping with grief peppered with enormous sense of guilt for never doing enough (although in theory I know that there really isn't much more we can do). My mum is in a care home under doctor's supervision where we know she is looked after and safe, but it breaks my heart that the family home we always considered the one safe place stopped serving that function for her, and so suddenly. Thank you for listening.