Hi every one as ive got a best of interest meeting with social serveses and care workers from the home were my wife of 25 years been since last week what i want to no is at certaian times of the day my wife nos what she wants and were she wants to live and says it to me but the only side these people have seen is when she is all confused aspecialy when they turn up and start talking openly about my wife dementia and whats best for in front of her like she dontent exist and not there when i no she might be quiet just sitting there but she can hear here every thing and takes on board as she realeats parts of of what they have bee n saying later on and the next even and thefe the people ile be up against at the meeting so called profesionals but realy no nothing about dementia and how every ones diffrent and thefe condition they go with it from what they have read in books and seen on tv so they do things the proper way and that there way or thats how it seems sometimes i hope ime wrong but to no dementia and alzheimers etc you have to be with 24/7 to fully anderstand it like i been for the last 10 years but ide do for another 10 not thinking of it as some i have to do as its my duty but becouse its the norm as i no my wife so well i no what she thinking well before she says it so am allways one step ahead and prepaired for whats aout to happen next with her and the dementia any way got a bit carried away with this one as it comeing from the heart what i want to no is when ive been sat with wife and she been very much with it and whats happening around her and holding a conversation with me which does not happen much but these special times make up for the other times well ive had my phone on record mode with out letting her no so theres no prompting or pretending ive recorded our talks and my wife saying were she wants live and thats with me how she dont realy like the home becouse people there aint quite with it as there is all sorts going on aspecialy when most like my wife to are sundowning as they call it. But can these voice recordings be played to the pannel who will decide whats best for my wife so they no what she wants and were she wants to be and who with etc also does this show that she has got capasecty as she did when i recorded her talking to me ive also taped her singing and saying how happy she is and who i am how we are married and she has my surname . Becouse to me thats the proof she has got capasety exuse my spelling. Like if you commit a crime they interview you in a room and tape the interview for evedence thats why this is clled for the benifit of the tape. Please can some one give me a bit of info on what ive said thanks.