How do I keep my mother from going into financial ruin??
She has suddenly had the idea to withdraw all of her money out of the bank at an alarming pace because she suddenly has the idea to pay everything with cash, to gift great grands (never gifted before) for Christmas, and has decided to forgo paying and tipping with debit nor writing checks because she has the idea that everyone is too busy and it's an inconvenience for anyone to go the bank. Last month she withdrew a substantial amount and lost, threw away, misplaced, or had it stolen ( i am still unable to find it).
Yesterday, she asked her son to withdraw $300 for her because she feels she must have money in the house... "To do things". She is also adamant that she has been withdrawing money from her account every month for years because she feels uncomfortable without having cash in the house.
My mom has always been verbally abusive, bullying, uncaring at times and very narcissist towards me the entire 30 years I've come to live with her... as well as her family (foster child).. so, when i try to approach the subject delicately and try to help her understand that we use online banking to pay her bills, and online shopping to purchase what is needed, that also it is important to have a proper accurate account of things and track of her expenses... that it's important for that money to remain in the bank...
i also bring it to her attention that combative. Need it at home, because she doesn't maintain an active outdoor lifestyle anymore, and she seldom is outside. only to go to her doctors' appointments... rarely go on outings with family. That it's best to write checks, or use debit.
She becomes very argumentative and combative. often insulting me. She tells me that this is her house, that she can do with her money as she pleases, and that if i don't like it i can leave, as i don't pay bills because of unemployment and disability.
if i really try to reason with her and she doesn't care for what I've said, she'll say that she can understand why my biological family never wanted me, that i have no friends or spouse, because they would "delete" me.
i don't know what to do. This month so far she has withdrawn $600. Her last bills for the month are automatically deducted next week, totaling $300 and we have yet to purchase groceries.
what should i do??
She has suddenly had the idea to withdraw all of her money out of the bank at an alarming pace because she suddenly has the idea to pay everything with cash, to gift great grands (never gifted before) for Christmas, and has decided to forgo paying and tipping with debit nor writing checks because she has the idea that everyone is too busy and it's an inconvenience for anyone to go the bank. Last month she withdrew a substantial amount and lost, threw away, misplaced, or had it stolen ( i am still unable to find it).
Yesterday, she asked her son to withdraw $300 for her because she feels she must have money in the house... "To do things". She is also adamant that she has been withdrawing money from her account every month for years because she feels uncomfortable without having cash in the house.
My mom has always been verbally abusive, bullying, uncaring at times and very narcissist towards me the entire 30 years I've come to live with her... as well as her family (foster child).. so, when i try to approach the subject delicately and try to help her understand that we use online banking to pay her bills, and online shopping to purchase what is needed, that also it is important to have a proper accurate account of things and track of her expenses... that it's important for that money to remain in the bank...
i also bring it to her attention that combative. Need it at home, because she doesn't maintain an active outdoor lifestyle anymore, and she seldom is outside. only to go to her doctors' appointments... rarely go on outings with family. That it's best to write checks, or use debit.
She becomes very argumentative and combative. often insulting me. She tells me that this is her house, that she can do with her money as she pleases, and that if i don't like it i can leave, as i don't pay bills because of unemployment and disability.
if i really try to reason with her and she doesn't care for what I've said, she'll say that she can understand why my biological family never wanted me, that i have no friends or spouse, because they would "delete" me.
i don't know what to do. This month so far she has withdrawn $600. Her last bills for the month are automatically deducted next week, totaling $300 and we have yet to purchase groceries.
what should i do??