Right now me and siblings don't get to do anything fun with Mum. She lives in her own home, we lost my Dad last year and the decline has been rapid.
We only got an official diagnosis in December, but have had carers going in for a year to prepare meals for Mum, otherwise she won't eat.
She wanders in and out of the house from 5am until dark taking bits of rubbish out. She regular throws away food, has forgotten how to use the washing machine. Recently got a cat (not my idea) and we have to care for it for her (litter changes etc), and I am in charge of her bills and finances, insurances etc.
She gets confused easily and forgets that we've had Dad's funeral, forgets who is buried in his grave, thinks their house is an heirloom house (it isnt) and regularly causes dramas that I have to go and sort out.
I've got a young baby and haven't been able to enjoy much of my mat leave because I have to run to Mum's 5/6 times a week to sort out her; unplugging everything, hiding light bulbs or controls, breaking her phone, refusing food, throwing away all her food etc etc.
I'm the closest so siblings can't help as quickly but I'm back to work in a couple of months and won't be able to do as much as I am.
Mum has health concerns worsened by not eating, that can put her in hospital. And constantly cries on the phone about how lonely she is. She can't live with any of us due to room, or jobs that require a good night's sleep e.g. surgery, and I also work from home.
One of my siblings is on board that Mum would do better in a home with people around to chat to, she can be monitored with food and given proper diet, and then we can focus on doing fun things with Mum like taking her out for the day or spending quality time with her rather than hunting down hidden things or dealing with paperwork/housework etc.
Is this a realistic thought or in your experience do loved ones decline in homes?
Thank you
We only got an official diagnosis in December, but have had carers going in for a year to prepare meals for Mum, otherwise she won't eat.
She wanders in and out of the house from 5am until dark taking bits of rubbish out. She regular throws away food, has forgotten how to use the washing machine. Recently got a cat (not my idea) and we have to care for it for her (litter changes etc), and I am in charge of her bills and finances, insurances etc.
She gets confused easily and forgets that we've had Dad's funeral, forgets who is buried in his grave, thinks their house is an heirloom house (it isnt) and regularly causes dramas that I have to go and sort out.
I've got a young baby and haven't been able to enjoy much of my mat leave because I have to run to Mum's 5/6 times a week to sort out her; unplugging everything, hiding light bulbs or controls, breaking her phone, refusing food, throwing away all her food etc etc.
I'm the closest so siblings can't help as quickly but I'm back to work in a couple of months and won't be able to do as much as I am.
Mum has health concerns worsened by not eating, that can put her in hospital. And constantly cries on the phone about how lonely she is. She can't live with any of us due to room, or jobs that require a good night's sleep e.g. surgery, and I also work from home.
One of my siblings is on board that Mum would do better in a home with people around to chat to, she can be monitored with food and given proper diet, and then we can focus on doing fun things with Mum like taking her out for the day or spending quality time with her rather than hunting down hidden things or dealing with paperwork/housework etc.
Is this a realistic thought or in your experience do loved ones decline in homes?
Thank you