I had similar problems with my dad
@Amna so I know how frustrating it is to have to deal with the constant clean ups when it could be so easily solved if only he’d wear the pull-ups!
like the others I found that dad was more co-operative with carers than he was with me. I told him the doctor said he had to wear the special pants to stop his bum getting sore as he spent a lot of time sitting down and he sort of accepted this but it was still a battle and I got very stressed although I tried not to show it.
Dad made all sorts of excuses for the wet patches everywhere, spilt drinks were a favourite and once he told me a man had been through the lounge with a watering can. He just didn’t realise he was responsible for the puddles so was understandably reluctant to wear pads or pull-ups.
I found this phase the most frustrating one of caring for my dad and it wasn’t until he had carers 4 times a day that things improved. Even then he could be difficult.
If you can afford one an electric carpet washer makes cleaning up much easier and helps to keep the odour down.