Dad has gone
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Alexandra, you are so brave keeping everything going for your daughter's party, it's a very strange feeling seeing the world all going about its business as normal, while you are feeling so bereft and shocked. I'm so sorry xxxx
I am so sorry to hear your news.
I don't know how you've managed to do this party and can only admire your strength. I hope you will have the time and space after the party that you need in order to come to terms with it. Don't keep the news back longer than you need to. x
I don't know how you've managed to do this party and can only admire your strength. I hope you will have the time and space after the party that you need in order to come to terms with it. Don't keep the news back longer than you need to. x
I'm so sorry Alexandra. How you kept going yesterday shows the strength that you have. You've been a terrific carer and Daughter to your Dad; now you are being a tower of strength for your own Daughter. Your children have always come across as being terrific youngsters; they will comfort you and each other. How very, very sad.
My sincere condolences to you and your family.
Love from,
Lyn T XX
My sincere condolences to you and your family.
Love from,
Lyn T XX
I'm so sorry for your loss. You have been amazing by keeping going for your daughter. You really are selfless. Do be kind to yourself. Allow yourself a moment or two to indulge in grief. You will need to let it out at some point. I hope that although you will be sad because your dad isn't there, you will find some joy this Christmas. X
So Sorry to hear about your dad . You are an amazing daughter and loved and cared for him . All the best I am thinking of you x
I have just had the hardest moment ever telling the children. I told them that the angels came down from heaven last night and took grandad to be with grandma. The boys understood and were just quiet, my now eight year old sobbed and I fear she may quietly suffer if i'm not careful she's a very emotional little girl who idolised her grandad that is why I couldn't let her share her birthday with the day he died. It will make no difference if she thinks it happened today but it will make a huge difference if she believes it happened on her birthday.
And my 4 yr old asked if we decorate granada room in pretty Christmas stuff will the angels be happy when they bring him back. .... how do you answer that.
And my 4 yr old asked if we decorate granada room in pretty Christmas stuff will the angels be happy when they bring him back. .... how do you answer that.
Well its been a couple of days since dad left us and I'm not quite sure how I'm feeling. Everything seems a blur still, I think some of me thinks its all a dream and I'll wake up soon and dad will be back.
Got appointments at the registry office and funeral directors tomorrow so my last day moping around the house in my pjs. And I must get the children back into school too.
My brothers and sister have all been and seen me. I feel very cold towards all of them as they have never been bothered whilst dad was ill. My little brother made a comment of he should of been around more but I couldn't say anything nice to make him feel better because Yes he should of been around more I have no sympathy for his rotten feelings now.
Everyone has left me to do the funeral arrangements which I half expected but at least this way I get to do what me and dad had planned.
I still can't bear to switch his room off. I shall probably just wait till NRS come to collect all his equipment then clear it out.
I haven't even started to think about christmas apart from putting the tree up this lunchtime with the kids.
I have NO christmas presents bought yet, not one. I was so busy whilst dad was ill I never managed any and now I'm either busy with arrangements or I haven't got a single bit of desire to go shopping.
Four kids and no presents what the hell am I going to do. I can't ruin their christmas so I think I'll just have to brave it and get it done.
Then to top it all off my landloards letting agents have decided I need a house inspection next Tuesday. My house is like a cow pit. Its got piles of washing everywhere. Piles of mess and paperwork. The kids rooms are destroyed. I've got decorations that need putting up still making a mess everywhere. I just don't know where to start !!!
Got appointments at the registry office and funeral directors tomorrow so my last day moping around the house in my pjs. And I must get the children back into school too.
My brothers and sister have all been and seen me. I feel very cold towards all of them as they have never been bothered whilst dad was ill. My little brother made a comment of he should of been around more but I couldn't say anything nice to make him feel better because Yes he should of been around more I have no sympathy for his rotten feelings now.
Everyone has left me to do the funeral arrangements which I half expected but at least this way I get to do what me and dad had planned.
I still can't bear to switch his room off. I shall probably just wait till NRS come to collect all his equipment then clear it out.
I haven't even started to think about christmas apart from putting the tree up this lunchtime with the kids.
I have NO christmas presents bought yet, not one. I was so busy whilst dad was ill I never managed any and now I'm either busy with arrangements or I haven't got a single bit of desire to go shopping.
Four kids and no presents what the hell am I going to do. I can't ruin their christmas so I think I'll just have to brave it and get it done.
Then to top it all off my landloards letting agents have decided I need a house inspection next Tuesday. My house is like a cow pit. Its got piles of washing everywhere. Piles of mess and paperwork. The kids rooms are destroyed. I've got decorations that need putting up still making a mess everywhere. I just don't know where to start !!!
My condolences. You have more than enough to cope with. Tell them nothing doing until after the funeral . That and your children's Christmas is far more important than an inspection. I think you are marvellous I would have told the relatives to sort the funeral. Sue
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So sorry for the loss of your Dad, so difficult at any time of year but especially when you are trying so hard to care for your children and their emotions too. Wishing you strength for the weeks ahead.
Hi Alexandra, what a difficult time for you all...If I was you.I would put off the house inspection, then could you get some help with getting the house sorted, (maybe pay for a couple of hours help?) Obviously you have to sort out the funeral as well, but once the house is straight you can shop online for Xmas and get ready for Xmas with your children, it is still over 2weeks away....You must be feeling quite overwhelmed with it all, but you will get through it, as your lovely children need you., and what a wonderful relationship they have had with their grandad, you have shown them and taught them so much, to love and care so much, lovely children...Take care xxx..
Deepest sympathies to those left behind. Your Dad is whole again and free. Hope this will bring some comfort.
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