Hello, I really am looking for some advice and hope someone can point me in the right direction.
My mum is 65, she has suffered with bi polar and psychosis since she was 40, she has been sectioned several times, the last time being 15 years ago, she refuses to take any medication. She is a widow. The last 10 years has seen her cognitive ability decline, as a family we suspect dementia but cannot be sure.
My mother refuses to have anything to do with doctors, nurses, social workers, hospitals etc, so we have muddled through on our own.
Things have come to a head recently as she has been in disagreement with her new neighbours over the boundary line of their fence. The court has found in the neighbours favour and ordered my mother to pays costs. As she has not paid a charging order has been out on her house.
As a family we feel it has reached the point where we need to step in. My siblings and I have decided to talk to my mother letting her know we have been informed by the neighbours of the court order (they are sending us documents) and the charge on the house. We wish to convey to her that we are worried she could be forced by the court to sell the house and that we want to help her navigate the situation.
I know full well she will scream and shout at us and ask us to leave.
Looking at the government website, it looks as though we may need to apply for deputyship as she will not appoint us to act for her willingly.
Can anyone advise if this would be the best course of action?
How do you cope with someone who is so uncooperative and paranoid and unable to look after themselves financially?
My mum is 65, she has suffered with bi polar and psychosis since she was 40, she has been sectioned several times, the last time being 15 years ago, she refuses to take any medication. She is a widow. The last 10 years has seen her cognitive ability decline, as a family we suspect dementia but cannot be sure.
My mother refuses to have anything to do with doctors, nurses, social workers, hospitals etc, so we have muddled through on our own.
Things have come to a head recently as she has been in disagreement with her new neighbours over the boundary line of their fence. The court has found in the neighbours favour and ordered my mother to pays costs. As she has not paid a charging order has been out on her house.
As a family we feel it has reached the point where we need to step in. My siblings and I have decided to talk to my mother letting her know we have been informed by the neighbours of the court order (they are sending us documents) and the charge on the house. We wish to convey to her that we are worried she could be forced by the court to sell the house and that we want to help her navigate the situation.
I know full well she will scream and shout at us and ask us to leave.
Looking at the government website, it looks as though we may need to apply for deputyship as she will not appoint us to act for her willingly.
Can anyone advise if this would be the best course of action?
How do you cope with someone who is so uncooperative and paranoid and unable to look after themselves financially?
