Hi Everyone, am new to this group and just seeking a little bit of advice.
My 81 year old mum was diagnosed last year with what we now know as mixed dementia. She is on Donepezil which was working ok for about 6 months. I have noticed in the last few months she is getting worse. I have asked for a referral back to the memory clinic and they rung me today saying she was on the highest dose of this medicine and basically there was nothing more they could do for her, but have referred me to an Admiral Nurse for support.
Mum just doesn't want to do anything with herself, she just lies on the sofa watching TV then moaning to me on the phone every night that she's bored. I have tried until I am blue in the face to get her to go to a support group but it's always one excuse after another. I do have 2 older brothers but they have basically washed their hands of her because she has been nasty to their wives over the past years (I now think this was the early stage of this horrible disease) so I am on my own, apart from a brilliant friend of mum's who I would be lost without and has the patience of a saint.
Sorry to go on but it feels good to get this out to someone that can't see me crying.
My question is what can I do with her, do I have to just sit there and watch her get worse. She gives me the guilt trip every day on the phone, she can't live with me and I can't give up work to live with her.
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
My 81 year old mum was diagnosed last year with what we now know as mixed dementia. She is on Donepezil which was working ok for about 6 months. I have noticed in the last few months she is getting worse. I have asked for a referral back to the memory clinic and they rung me today saying she was on the highest dose of this medicine and basically there was nothing more they could do for her, but have referred me to an Admiral Nurse for support.
Mum just doesn't want to do anything with herself, she just lies on the sofa watching TV then moaning to me on the phone every night that she's bored. I have tried until I am blue in the face to get her to go to a support group but it's always one excuse after another. I do have 2 older brothers but they have basically washed their hands of her because she has been nasty to their wives over the past years (I now think this was the early stage of this horrible disease) so I am on my own, apart from a brilliant friend of mum's who I would be lost without and has the patience of a saint.
Sorry to go on but it feels good to get this out to someone that can't see me crying.
My question is what can I do with her, do I have to just sit there and watch her get worse. She gives me the guilt trip every day on the phone, she can't live with me and I can't give up work to live with her.
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks