My father-in-law has mixed dementia and has recently moved into a care home. We're learning about the ways of care homes and their quirks.
A friends aunt is also in the same home and the two happily talk to each other. The Aunt cannot keep things in her short term memory, she is always asking ours name, if she's eaten, where does she live etc.
I have a question. Am I over-reacting to something we saw?
The time was 20:45 and we left my father-in-law in his room. Our friends Aunt has the room next door. As we left his room, two carers left her room and one turned around and shouted 'get back into your room' (Or similar). Not bellowing, but a raised voice none-the-less.
As we walked past we could hear the Aunt say things like 'Have I eaten, where am I?'. One of the carers put her arm across the door to block Aunt leaving her room. She said 'Get back in your room' and pushed her shoulder so she'd go back into the room.
We continued to walk past and the second carer followed us, while the first continued to ensure Aunt was in her room.
Thing is, the doors aren't locked. So, even she got the Aunt back in the room, she'd only come out again. Typically we see the Aunt walking the corridors when we leave as she gets restless.
Is this typical behaviour for a carer in a care home? We've raised a few things in the past with the care home and they asked us to stop interfering, so now I don't know what to do.
We walked down the stairs and we coudl hear the carers talking. One said 'that's Xs family...' but nothing else. Sounds like she might have been warning the other that we might complain.
Should I just forget about it? I'd hate it if they treated my father-in-law like that.
A friends aunt is also in the same home and the two happily talk to each other. The Aunt cannot keep things in her short term memory, she is always asking ours name, if she's eaten, where does she live etc.
I have a question. Am I over-reacting to something we saw?
The time was 20:45 and we left my father-in-law in his room. Our friends Aunt has the room next door. As we left his room, two carers left her room and one turned around and shouted 'get back into your room' (Or similar). Not bellowing, but a raised voice none-the-less.
As we walked past we could hear the Aunt say things like 'Have I eaten, where am I?'. One of the carers put her arm across the door to block Aunt leaving her room. She said 'Get back in your room' and pushed her shoulder so she'd go back into the room.
We continued to walk past and the second carer followed us, while the first continued to ensure Aunt was in her room.
Thing is, the doors aren't locked. So, even she got the Aunt back in the room, she'd only come out again. Typically we see the Aunt walking the corridors when we leave as she gets restless.
Is this typical behaviour for a carer in a care home? We've raised a few things in the past with the care home and they asked us to stop interfering, so now I don't know what to do.
We walked down the stairs and we coudl hear the carers talking. One said 'that's Xs family...' but nothing else. Sounds like she might have been warning the other that we might complain.
Should I just forget about it? I'd hate it if they treated my father-in-law like that.
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