Hi! I first joined when my MIL had Alzheimer’s - she died 5 years ago. I’m now walking the same road with my own mum. She’s in ‘late middle stage’, I reckon. She lives in her own home which is a 15 minute drive from my house. We pay a carer to go in Monday to Thursday for two hours each morning (carer has other commitments on Fridays) and she is fantastic. I’m a teacher and I pop in to see her after school each day. I also visit on Saturday and bring her over to ours on a Sunday afternoon. Mum can still deal with her personal care (washing and dressing). She hasn’t cooked for a long time but can make a sandwich, heat something up in the microwave and similar. She refuses meals on wheels and gets very angry if I try to make something. Recently she has begun experiencing delusions on a daily basis. We live in a rural area (Hebridean island) where care options are very limited. There is a lovely Eventide Home run by the local authority but their policy is only to admit people who are seriously at risk at home. My sister (who lives in the south of England) and I both feel that the time is coming where Mum needs significantly more care - she isn’t eating properly and is often lonely and distressed. She doesn’t recognise her house as being her home. Can anyone advise me on where we might go from here? Are we entitled to local authority help? Thank you.
