Hello everyone I'm new here so forgive me please if I don't make myself clear in the first instance. It's been brought to my attention from neighbours, friends and colleagues that my mum's memory has been failing her for some time. Unfortunately due to our past relationship we haven't been able to be very close so it was something that I hadn't noticed it myself. Also living over 200 miles away meant I wasn't able to maybe pick up subtle changes.
Anyway I am a very pragmatic person and donned my 'control hat on and went to see for myself. I've spent almost 2 weeks with her now and if I'm honest I can not believe the plethora of emotions the human body can go through. I have to say that although it has been a tremendous shock to see my mum like this. I feel it's my duty to ensure that she is looked after properly even if it's not me that does the looking after. Looking at my mum you wouldn't think anything was wrong but she has some considerable memory problems. As such her finances are in such a state of really don't low where to begin. I must say that in two weeks though I have had a meeting with her gp. Shes undergone a memory test that the Dr arranged to be done at home. I arranged for social services to come and do a home assessment and I'm in the process of trying to get her debts organised and with a debt agency. Fortunately her bank has been overwhelmingly helpful and have help pointed me in the right direction. I now have my name on her account and and am thinking about doing a power of attorney. While it's still easy. Relatively. After spending these weeks with her I do believe that my mum is slowly very slowly getting her head around the fact that she may have dementia although we are still awaiting a brain scan.
After trolling the Internet for information I came across this website and finally plucked up the courage to write. I'm not sure whether I'm expect a reply or anything but already it feels better just relaying my some of my story. Well thanx for listening and hopefully I'll be back.
Anyway I am a very pragmatic person and donned my 'control hat on and went to see for myself. I've spent almost 2 weeks with her now and if I'm honest I can not believe the plethora of emotions the human body can go through. I have to say that although it has been a tremendous shock to see my mum like this. I feel it's my duty to ensure that she is looked after properly even if it's not me that does the looking after. Looking at my mum you wouldn't think anything was wrong but she has some considerable memory problems. As such her finances are in such a state of really don't low where to begin. I must say that in two weeks though I have had a meeting with her gp. Shes undergone a memory test that the Dr arranged to be done at home. I arranged for social services to come and do a home assessment and I'm in the process of trying to get her debts organised and with a debt agency. Fortunately her bank has been overwhelmingly helpful and have help pointed me in the right direction. I now have my name on her account and and am thinking about doing a power of attorney. While it's still easy. Relatively. After spending these weeks with her I do believe that my mum is slowly very slowly getting her head around the fact that she may have dementia although we are still awaiting a brain scan.
After trolling the Internet for information I came across this website and finally plucked up the courage to write. I'm not sure whether I'm expect a reply or anything but already it feels better just relaying my some of my story. Well thanx for listening and hopefully I'll be back.