I have been helping care for my 92 year old Mum with Alzheimers for just over 2 years now. I live about 1hrs drive away but travel up 2-3 times a week to spend the day. She also has regular visits from my brother who lives nearby and 4 daily visits from carers.
I wrote some months ago after the consultant gave Mum an MMSE score of 20 having previously been at 13. It seemed too good to be true and in fact I think it is. Mum is slightly calmer on the anti-depressants but what we are seeing at home would not warrant this improved memory score. We are seeing the consultant again on Tuesday, any ideas on how I approach this? Should I just come out and say I think he got it wrong last time?
Also I have many concerns about Mum continuing to live alone. I would love to move her to lovely care home near me. She is lonely and sometimes frightened. To family she will often say she would be better off in a home but when asked by the consultant or SS she refuses to entertain the idea. I have read several posts on here recently where family have moved their relative to a home by subterfuge. I have considered this but SS have told me that Mum cannot be moved against her will and if we did move her to a care home and she wanted to leave they would not be able to stop her.
At a best interests meeting last October it was decided she would be better in care but since then nothing has happened, are they waiting for a crisis of some kind?
We have POA for finance but not for health and welfare. Is it too late to consider doing it now?
Sorry for such a long post and so many questions. I feel better for just putting it all down. This seems to be the only place I can come for help from the people who really know.
Thank you Liz
I wrote some months ago after the consultant gave Mum an MMSE score of 20 having previously been at 13. It seemed too good to be true and in fact I think it is. Mum is slightly calmer on the anti-depressants but what we are seeing at home would not warrant this improved memory score. We are seeing the consultant again on Tuesday, any ideas on how I approach this? Should I just come out and say I think he got it wrong last time?
Also I have many concerns about Mum continuing to live alone. I would love to move her to lovely care home near me. She is lonely and sometimes frightened. To family she will often say she would be better off in a home but when asked by the consultant or SS she refuses to entertain the idea. I have read several posts on here recently where family have moved their relative to a home by subterfuge. I have considered this but SS have told me that Mum cannot be moved against her will and if we did move her to a care home and she wanted to leave they would not be able to stop her.
At a best interests meeting last October it was decided she would be better in care but since then nothing has happened, are they waiting for a crisis of some kind?
We have POA for finance but not for health and welfare. Is it too late to consider doing it now?
Sorry for such a long post and so many questions. I feel better for just putting it all down. This seems to be the only place I can come for help from the people who really know.
Thank you Liz