I have mentioned to Crossroads that the Tuesday sitter does not interact properly with Alan. She calls him by the wrong name and she doesn't smile at him or talk to him. She is in the process of being replaced.
However, she arrived yesterday and she kept her head down and didn't even say 'hello' to Alan. They were to go to the care home whilst I worked. Because of how she was, Alan completely changed from his stable, happy self, to being confused, insecure and unhappy
Because I was on a time limit I was ushering him out of the door anyway and he went off very confused. He headed off up the street and was 8 - 10 houses away and the sitter was dawdling that far behind him She let him head off in that confused state and didn't attempt to go to assist him. I watched and she then had to run to catch him up because he'd gone past her car. You can imagine the state I was in watching all this unfold before my eyes When they got back she then wanted me to sign a travel slip and she'd not put down the mileage so I asked her what it was. She said 5.5 miles and I said it isn't that because it is only round the corner and everyone else's doesn't come to that. She then said make it 4.5. I said I was not at all happy with that because it was excessive and she didn't bat an eyelid. If anyone had confronted me about this kind of thing, I would be in a flap and showing some concern.
Today I ring Crossroads about it. The CPN comes to visit as we had an appointment. She sees me in control and quite ok. Alan is busy sweeping up the leaves and so I relate to her about how Alan hadn't had a decline in his condition but that it was due to mismanagement of one of the sitters. I showed her the document I'd typed up for Crossroads and she was horrified. Then Crossroads rang me to give me the times and names of the sitters to cover my respite weekend. One of the sitters is down for 3 of those days even though I told them it was not suitable over a week ago. They have now told me that they cannot change it because there is no one else available. The CPN watched me go from quite ok to a wreck. I was so glad she was there to witness it all. She confirmed to me that I was clear with Crossroads about why it was not suitable and I just could not get them to understand. She said it wasn't anything complicated and they should understand. She also said that it was not possible for me to continue having to cope with these things.
In the end I phoned Alan's daughter and asked if she would cover a 6-10pm shift and she said she would. This really is not acceptable either because she has so much on herself.
I am now thinking more and more about these people who have their lives devastated by bad practice and I am trying so hard to keep Alan ok but I know that in order to do this I need proper help and not all these hindrances.
My respite weekend is now turning into a very stressful affair and I really am devastated by it all.
However, she arrived yesterday and she kept her head down and didn't even say 'hello' to Alan. They were to go to the care home whilst I worked. Because of how she was, Alan completely changed from his stable, happy self, to being confused, insecure and unhappy
Because I was on a time limit I was ushering him out of the door anyway and he went off very confused. He headed off up the street and was 8 - 10 houses away and the sitter was dawdling that far behind him She let him head off in that confused state and didn't attempt to go to assist him. I watched and she then had to run to catch him up because he'd gone past her car. You can imagine the state I was in watching all this unfold before my eyes When they got back she then wanted me to sign a travel slip and she'd not put down the mileage so I asked her what it was. She said 5.5 miles and I said it isn't that because it is only round the corner and everyone else's doesn't come to that. She then said make it 4.5. I said I was not at all happy with that because it was excessive and she didn't bat an eyelid. If anyone had confronted me about this kind of thing, I would be in a flap and showing some concern.Today I ring Crossroads about it. The CPN comes to visit as we had an appointment. She sees me in control and quite ok. Alan is busy sweeping up the leaves and so I relate to her about how Alan hadn't had a decline in his condition but that it was due to mismanagement of one of the sitters. I showed her the document I'd typed up for Crossroads and she was horrified. Then Crossroads rang me to give me the times and names of the sitters to cover my respite weekend. One of the sitters is down for 3 of those days even though I told them it was not suitable over a week ago. They have now told me that they cannot change it because there is no one else available. The CPN watched me go from quite ok to a wreck. I was so glad she was there to witness it all. She confirmed to me that I was clear with Crossroads about why it was not suitable and I just could not get them to understand. She said it wasn't anything complicated and they should understand. She also said that it was not possible for me to continue having to cope with these things.
In the end I phoned Alan's daughter and asked if she would cover a 6-10pm shift and she said she would. This really is not acceptable either because she has so much on herself.
I am now thinking more and more about these people who have their lives devastated by bad practice and I am trying so hard to keep Alan ok but I know that in order to do this I need proper help and not all these hindrances.
My respite weekend is now turning into a very stressful affair and I really am devastated by it all.
