Agresive behaviour

[Louise.P]

My Mum is in a care home and they are struggling to manage her due to her agresive behaviour.
They are at a point where the only option is to up her Trazodone to sedate her so they are able to carry out her personal and medical care.

Has anyone else experienced this please?

 

[Grannie G]

Hello @Louise.P

At least the care home is being honest with you and not increasing the Trazadone secretly. It might be the only option to get your mum to accept the physical and medical care she needs.

I haven`t had this experience, although my husband refused a bath and the carers continued to offer it until one day he accepted.

 

[Lory]

My Mum is in a care home and they are struggling to manage her due to her agresive behaviour.
They are at a point where the only option is to up her Trazodone to sedate her so they are able to carry out her personal and medical care.

Has anyone else experienced this please?

Hi Louise
I am so sorry for your Mum and you. It is such a horrific disease. Nobody can prepare you for the long journey of heartbreak.
My Mum has just gone into long term care in a local community hospital. Actually the hospital that she worked for 35 years before she retired in 2010.
The team at the hospital are struggling to manage my Mum’s agitation which has recently been aggressive and she has lashed out at staff.
The meds they have her on are Epilim and Quetiapine. They have significantly increased her dosage. We are hoping that it will stabilise her mood.
Everyone there are working really hard to keep Mum there as she is ‘one of their own” and the kindest and most capable nurse they have know.

It is the most heartbreaking thing to see the woman you admire most in this world be taken piece by piece day by day by this evil disease

I hope your Mum stills on the next few weeks with the meds. Apparently it takes at least two weeks to build up in the body.

Take care and be kind to yourself xxx

 

[Louise.P]

Hi Lory,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum and your right it it so heartbreaking.
Unfortunately for my Mum things have got worse.
Mum didn't take well to the increased medication and they had to stop it they wouldn't try it for more than a day.
They are now using lorazepam and about to start risperidone but if this doesn't work they have told me they will serve notice and she will have to find another care home. I'm so worried...

Think of you and your Mum . Take care xx

 

[Lory]

Oh Louise, I am so sorry to hear that. The whole thing is horrific enough but to be dealing with this one top of everything.
I am in a similar position with my Mum. She had a really bad episode last week and was aggressive to staff hitting and kicking. I was told the same thing that if she doesn't calm down they will remove her. We were lucky that consultant geriatrician came to see her in the NH and prescribed Trazadone and upped the dosage of Epilim and seroqual. It seems to have calmed her down this week. The GP said they needed a specialist to help figure out the best meds. Do you have access to that sort of resource?
Also we are learning that my Mum is constantly prone to UTIs and then she had the last bad episode she had a UTI.
They have put her on low dose antibiotics to prevent infection. This helps rule out an infection and they don’t just blame it on the dementia.
I hope they work with you and your Mum to get to a better place. Take care of yourself. You are doing the best for your Mum. 💕 xx