I am a new member and feel I need to know how to deal more calmly with my husband's aggressive and frightening behaviour. I try to be calm though it's hard!
Aggressive and frightening behaviour.
- Thread starter BuckdenSoc
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Welcome to the forum @BuckdenSoc.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I wonder if you would find anything helpful in this link -
www.alzheimers.org.uk
Please keep yourself safe. Try to keep a mobile phone with you and if you can get yourself to another room if you are frightened for your own safety. If necessary please phone the police. Others on the forum have done this.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I wonder if you would find anything helpful in this link -
Aggressive behaviour and dementia
Read our information for carers about aggression and dementia, what we mean by aggressive behaviour and why a person with dementia may behave aggressively.
www.alzheimers.org.uk
Please keep yourself safe. Try to keep a mobile phone with you and if you can get yourself to another room if you are frightened for your own safety. If necessary please phone the police. Others on the forum have done this.
Yes, it is hard to stay calm but that is the best thing to do. If you are calm, then he will calm down quicker. Whatever happens, do not argue with him or get upset. He will be picking up your mood so you need to bear in mind that you must be calm and reassuring. I had the same problem with my husband but by being loving and reassuring, no matter what he says, I found that the aggression disappeared. However, it may require a medical review of things are too bad.
Keep yourself safe at all times and phone the police if you have to.
My mantra is 'reassure, reassure reassure'. It works.
@BuckdenSoc it would probably be a good idea for contact his GP about the aggressive behaviour and they could consider medication to calm him.
my husband was aggressive and threatening to me yesterday. he grabbed me by the face and knocked my handbag off my lap He did it in a public place and A lady came and asked if I was ok. I am currently living with cancer and I cannot handle any more stress. I dont know where to turn or what to do. Husband has Lewy Body dementia and this is the first strong aggression towards me. I fear this will get worse.
Hello @Shem56 I am so sorry to read about this, it must have been so frightening and stressful for you. Please ensure that you always have a fully charged phone with you and if something like this happens again get yourself to a safe place and contact the police, they are trained to deal with situations like this.
In the meantime please contact your GP or the Memory Clinic to explain what happened, it might be that a change of medication will help to control the aggression. Also call your adult social services to discuss what has happened and tell them that you are finding it hard to cope with your husband due to his behaviour and your own cancer.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are getting on.
In the meantime please contact your GP or the Memory Clinic to explain what happened, it might be that a change of medication will help to control the aggression. Also call your adult social services to discuss what has happened and tell them that you are finding it hard to cope with your husband due to his behaviour and your own cancer.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are getting on.