Hi all im new to this site,i`ll try to keep this short but my dear mother was diagnosed with advanced dementia just over a year ago,she was only 69 at the time.
After a long hard struggle my dad decided he couldnt cope anymore and put mum into a nursing home,hence to say he is living with a lot of guilt,he goes in and sees her every day.
I am really struggling to come to terms with things and as i currently live in Scotland and my mum and dad are in Devon (550 miles away)
I have managed twice in the last 2 months to go and see my mum and its so heartbreaking to see,even the deterioration from September when i went down to just last week.
I haven't really been close to my family,but this has brought us slightly more together,but im always the last to know certain things about whats happening with mum and its tearing me apart,at the end of the day she is my mum to.
Im trying to get a move back down south so i can be closer to mum,but am having no luck with that either,as its not as easy as it seems.
Sorry im just at a lost cause i have no one to talk to im on my own and im really finding it hard.
Anyone with any advice or help please do.
After a long hard struggle my dad decided he couldnt cope anymore and put mum into a nursing home,hence to say he is living with a lot of guilt,he goes in and sees her every day.
I am really struggling to come to terms with things and as i currently live in Scotland and my mum and dad are in Devon (550 miles away)
I have managed twice in the last 2 months to go and see my mum and its so heartbreaking to see,even the deterioration from September when i went down to just last week.
I haven't really been close to my family,but this has brought us slightly more together,but im always the last to know certain things about whats happening with mum and its tearing me apart,at the end of the day she is my mum to.
Im trying to get a move back down south so i can be closer to mum,but am having no luck with that either,as its not as easy as it seems.
Sorry im just at a lost cause i have no one to talk to im on my own and im really finding it hard.
Anyone with any advice or help please do.