At the end of the day it is your choice and your choice alone as to what you do - there is no right or wrong answer.
My mom is in a care home, I am an only child. The care home is a ten minute drive I choose to go once or twice a week. My mom has three siblings they choose not to visit at all two of them send what I call conscience gifts on her birthday and at Christmas. It upsets me that they do not go especially if she asks about them but that is their choice and I will not be falling out with them over this.
My father in law is also in a care home he has been there for just over 12 months. My husband has not seen him since admission. Again that is his choice the wrong one in my opinion but its his choice and he has to live with the consequences.
Like Violet Jane says ignore everyone else and focus on your mom.
My mom is in a care home, I am an only child. The care home is a ten minute drive I choose to go once or twice a week. My mom has three siblings they choose not to visit at all two of them send what I call conscience gifts on her birthday and at Christmas. It upsets me that they do not go especially if she asks about them but that is their choice and I will not be falling out with them over this.
My father in law is also in a care home he has been there for just over 12 months. My husband has not seen him since admission. Again that is his choice the wrong one in my opinion but its his choice and he has to live with the consequences.
Like Violet Jane says ignore everyone else and focus on your mom.