Hi my first post here, so hello!
I care for my father who has been diagnosed with mixed dementia, i moved back in with him three years ago after it became very clear he couldn't cope anymore, for us it was either move in with him or put him into professional care there was no option of him living with us (we lived on a pair of narrow boats on the canal system).
Up until now its been OK lots of ups and downs, some easily coped with, some downs were more of a problem but with a keen interest to see the best for him and plenty of time most/all have been solved until now.
The most recent problem has tested my mettle to the limit. He's suddenly become very very fussy with food, to the extent that he just can't eat the evening meal (no matter what) He is getting so stressed that just calling him to the meal makes him wretch and generally depresses him so much you can see the life spirit drain from him (no, i'm not that bad a cook! ;-) ) he's able to select his evening meal, which he does in good spirit but then he refuses or is unable to eat, he is so stressed that I just put him to bed and he sleeps from early evening to morning.
He eats breakfast (cereal) and most lunches (sandwich or bowl of soup) it the evenings he struggles with.
Recently (last few days) i've richened up his lunch a little and as he is not very active I feel at the moment he is not in any immediate danger of malnourishment or dehydration but should this recent trend extend to the lunch period as well i may well need to get my thinking cap on!!!
Any ideas on how to settle him down for an evening snack?
I care for my father who has been diagnosed with mixed dementia, i moved back in with him three years ago after it became very clear he couldn't cope anymore, for us it was either move in with him or put him into professional care there was no option of him living with us (we lived on a pair of narrow boats on the canal system).
Up until now its been OK lots of ups and downs, some easily coped with, some downs were more of a problem but with a keen interest to see the best for him and plenty of time most/all have been solved until now.
The most recent problem has tested my mettle to the limit. He's suddenly become very very fussy with food, to the extent that he just can't eat the evening meal (no matter what) He is getting so stressed that just calling him to the meal makes him wretch and generally depresses him so much you can see the life spirit drain from him (no, i'm not that bad a cook! ;-) ) he's able to select his evening meal, which he does in good spirit but then he refuses or is unable to eat, he is so stressed that I just put him to bed and he sleeps from early evening to morning.
He eats breakfast (cereal) and most lunches (sandwich or bowl of soup) it the evenings he struggles with.
Recently (last few days) i've richened up his lunch a little and as he is not very active I feel at the moment he is not in any immediate danger of malnourishment or dehydration but should this recent trend extend to the lunch period as well i may well need to get my thinking cap on!!!
Any ideas on how to settle him down for an evening snack?