So now we have arrived at the inevitable moment when a consultant is about to tell mum that not only is she unwell, but specifically that she has dementia. This will happen on Friday. The way things have turned out, it will be my brother and not me who accompanies her to this appointment. All sorts of scenarios are running through my mind about how she will react to this. She already suspects there is something up of course - how could she not after two memory tests, about seven blood tests, and a CT scan - but we've been underplaying it so far and saying things about getting a health check-up, old age catching up, etc. As far as I can tell from this forum and elsewhere, the consultant will be telling mum straight out what the illness is, that it's incurable, and that it's progressive. I have no idea how she will respond to this but I'm fearing the worst. Either she will understand it and be devastated by it, or (which would possibly be worse) she will deny it and forget about. Does anyone have any advice on how we should talk to mum about this once we've passed this milestone ? Also, does it make any difference if one or both of her children are present ?