So Ive just found out that mum has vascular demetia on top of my dad's Alzheimers which was diagnosed in January. Its knocked me for six that both my parents have an actual diagnosis and all I can think is why??????? and OMG what do we do now?? I know there's no answer to the first question but what about the second? What do we do and who do we turn to in order to get help with this situation? Dad had an operation today and apparently mum has been no help and in fact has been pretty awkward. Dads at home with drugs but mum cant cope with her own let alone dad's. I live 90 mins away, my brother lives 45 mins away and my sister 30 mins but we all work. How can we make sure they take their drugs? How can we make sure dad is looked after? My sister is there today and I'm going tomorrow but long term? Who do I contact Social services,their GP,the Mental Health Unit? Will I have to have sussed out mum and dad's financial situation before Social Services will help? So many questions but I'm so worried . Can anyone offer me words of wisdom or advice?