My dad went into hospital just before christmas when he had a rapid decline in his condition (Vascular Dementia). He stayed there for 3 months then at the end of feb we moved him into a good NH. His original assessment meant he was in the emi NH unit but after a recent re-assessment we managed to get him into a residential emi unit. Its still in same building just a different part.
Despite his confusion he is still quite independent. He likes to go for a paper first thing every morning but once he is back in his room he is pretty much no trouble the majority of the time. He can be on many occasions very lucid, but is extremely unhappy. He doesnt understand why he is where he is, & constantly wants to come home. When asked he doesnt really know where that is despite having lived there for over 50 years.
He is able to use his mobile phone, I have pre-programmed our numbers & taped a piece of paper on the back of it so he just has to press one digit. This has proved to be not such a good idea and now he rings my mother constantly throughout the say & sometimes the night. Just having these calls has driven my mother to the brink cos hes demanding one thing after the other. He is consumed with what he thinks are the injustices of why he isnt able to go anywhere alone. He blames my mother & says people have told him she wont let him come home even though they say he is 100% fit. He has no concept of the time, day or even month & just expects us all to drop everything.
My mother has considered bringing him home several times but has been talked out of it by all the professionals involved. Now once again she has reached a breaking point & is talking about him coming home permanently. She thinks that once he is home he will be happier & therefore wont be so demanding. My fear is that he will still want to do everything his way & my poor mother will have no control & will not be able to cope.
Part of me wants him home, because I also agree that he doesnt seem quite as confused as he was. On the other hand I worry how my mother will manage by herself. My father would never allow carers in plus my mother has said she doesnt want them in.
What do you think. Home or CH?
Despite his confusion he is still quite independent. He likes to go for a paper first thing every morning but once he is back in his room he is pretty much no trouble the majority of the time. He can be on many occasions very lucid, but is extremely unhappy. He doesnt understand why he is where he is, & constantly wants to come home. When asked he doesnt really know where that is despite having lived there for over 50 years.
He is able to use his mobile phone, I have pre-programmed our numbers & taped a piece of paper on the back of it so he just has to press one digit. This has proved to be not such a good idea and now he rings my mother constantly throughout the say & sometimes the night. Just having these calls has driven my mother to the brink cos hes demanding one thing after the other. He is consumed with what he thinks are the injustices of why he isnt able to go anywhere alone. He blames my mother & says people have told him she wont let him come home even though they say he is 100% fit. He has no concept of the time, day or even month & just expects us all to drop everything.
My mother has considered bringing him home several times but has been talked out of it by all the professionals involved. Now once again she has reached a breaking point & is talking about him coming home permanently. She thinks that once he is home he will be happier & therefore wont be so demanding. My fear is that he will still want to do everything his way & my poor mother will have no control & will not be able to cope.
Part of me wants him home, because I also agree that he doesnt seem quite as confused as he was. On the other hand I worry how my mother will manage by herself. My father would never allow carers in plus my mother has said she doesnt want them in.
What do you think. Home or CH?