I feel very guilty most days. We have been living with Alz for over 10 years now, as I am not sure how many years I was doing it while he was undiagnosed. He was about 49 and he will be 61 in April.
I work and have the burdens of our finances which when we were a married partnership, he handled the finances.
Finally, all the children will all be finished with their educations this year. Our youngest will graduate in June.(he was 11 when his father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's)
My husband was and is a dear kind man, and if the shoe were on the other foot he would be there for me. He still trys to help around the house, laundry and washing dishes. But the last few years that is fairly problematic.....things rarely get put where they belong.
We had fun for many years and but I still feel a bit cheated, I am not as angry at life as I was 5years ago.....I just feel very hopeless as we continue on this terrible and inevitable decline. I do my best to stay in the day and enjoy the moment, these 24 hours. But it does not keep me from feeling cheated at some level and abandoned (although this is my stuff and I know it).I am much more desparate than he is, he forgets how desparate it all is....and he never wished to understand where Alzheimer's was going to take us. I am informed.....which makes me feel hopeless and desparate. I do have a few excellent friends who keep me going and help me with things I cannot do myself. But I feel to young to be buried alive, but bound by doing the right thing. I cannot imagine what he must feel but he was never good at sharing his feeling. Where we live there is no support for him, so I solicit the help of friends and occassionally pay for help. Luckily he does not need to much help yet. Thanks for letting me share.
I work and have the burdens of our finances which when we were a married partnership, he handled the finances.
Finally, all the children will all be finished with their educations this year. Our youngest will graduate in June.(he was 11 when his father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's)
My husband was and is a dear kind man, and if the shoe were on the other foot he would be there for me. He still trys to help around the house, laundry and washing dishes. But the last few years that is fairly problematic.....things rarely get put where they belong.
We had fun for many years and but I still feel a bit cheated, I am not as angry at life as I was 5years ago.....I just feel very hopeless as we continue on this terrible and inevitable decline. I do my best to stay in the day and enjoy the moment, these 24 hours. But it does not keep me from feeling cheated at some level and abandoned (although this is my stuff and I know it).I am much more desparate than he is, he forgets how desparate it all is....and he never wished to understand where Alzheimer's was going to take us. I am informed.....which makes me feel hopeless and desparate. I do have a few excellent friends who keep me going and help me with things I cannot do myself. But I feel to young to be buried alive, but bound by doing the right thing. I cannot imagine what he must feel but he was never good at sharing his feeling. Where we live there is no support for him, so I solicit the help of friends and occassionally pay for help. Luckily he does not need to much help yet. Thanks for letting me share.