Guilt rears its ugly head again .......
My hubby has recently (4 weeks now) entered an EMI Nursing Home. It is very nice and he seems to have settled in well. I think the problem is me !!! The other patients are further along the line than him and he seems very bored, but all he can do now is sing all day long. I know I was at the end of my tether, however it doesn't make me feel any better at all, when I hear that he has even been sleeping through the night. I was up practically every night 5,6,7 times a nght, and was only averaging about 4-5 hours sleep at the most, so I was an absolute wreck. The ss and mental health nurse , said it was time he was looked after by the professionals and my family have been telling me for months to let go. It is not an easy decision to make and when I visit him, he wants to come home I am bring honest when I say I cannot handle this very well and I drive home crying my eyes out.
To think it has come to this point after 54 years of marriage, and I miss him terribly. although I know when I leave he has forgotten me completely. His cognitive score is nil, now, and he cannot converse with me at all, but the sad thing is he is a fit man otherwise. Now I am all alone, feeling at rock bottom, I am not normally a depressed person, but I cannot seem to shake myself out of it. Oh my, here I am again going on and on, I know we all have our worries and everyone on here will have to go through this at some stage. Where do I go from here ...... I don't know. I really don't.