Mum is a very frail 90 year old who has recently been diagnosed with dementia. She gets a morning and a tea time visit from the council's assessment team plus she gets meals on wheels everyday. She gets visits almost every day from family members. Despite this she will often telephone one of the family between visits saying she doesn't know what she is doing, is feeling bad etc and could one of us come. She sounds desperate so so far we have acceded but I am beginning to think we are making a rod for our own backs by doing so and that we should say we are not coming and remind her that the council carer will be with her soon or some such thing. I expect many people on this forum will have experienced such calls and I wonder how they deal with them?