Hi
I am new here. Not sure if I am posting in the right forum but I do know a subdural heamatoma can initially seem like dementia although some damage can be reversed. My partner is in hospital but hopefully will be discharged within a few days, Physically he doesn't seem too bad but mentally is still confused. OP feels he needs supervision re cooking which I can do but as long ago as October he was sleeping through the timer and left the ring on a couple times - she asked if we could disconnect cooker but he would be very angry if I did that. He is a very controlling person so I don't think the adjustment will be easy for him. I do wonder if he had the early signs of dementia before the haematoma. He was losing things, forgetting things, not sure if it was day or night sometimes, a nightmare to get to take his tablets, forgetting if he had had a bath........I do feel he was depressed because some days he wouldn't get dressed. I do know dementia is a nightmare to diagnose, especially if he won't co-operate. He is putting all the symptons down to the haematoma, and this can of course bring on dementia symptons .
He also has lupus and this year has been into hospital 3 times, first with AT, he was put on tablets but seemed to have a very bad reaction then was told he has lupus which could have caused some of the above symptons.
I am seeing OP later today and will discuss some concerns with her. Husband has mental capacity and is desperate to get home. He insists he is on just vitamins but after such a big op, I find that hard to accept. He is even saying when he gets the discharge paperwork through, he won't wait for his medications and will get a taxi home rather than waiting for an amubulance - I can live with the latter, but worry very much about him not having his medications.
So in a nutshell, I don't know what I am dealing with and what is wrong with him. He also has gout and oedema. I do know trying to take care of him will mean walking on eggshells. I am 51 and he is 74.
any advice or even just sharing experiences would be appreciated very much.
I am new here. Not sure if I am posting in the right forum but I do know a subdural heamatoma can initially seem like dementia although some damage can be reversed. My partner is in hospital but hopefully will be discharged within a few days, Physically he doesn't seem too bad but mentally is still confused. OP feels he needs supervision re cooking which I can do but as long ago as October he was sleeping through the timer and left the ring on a couple times - she asked if we could disconnect cooker but he would be very angry if I did that. He is a very controlling person so I don't think the adjustment will be easy for him. I do wonder if he had the early signs of dementia before the haematoma. He was losing things, forgetting things, not sure if it was day or night sometimes, a nightmare to get to take his tablets, forgetting if he had had a bath........I do feel he was depressed because some days he wouldn't get dressed. I do know dementia is a nightmare to diagnose, especially if he won't co-operate. He is putting all the symptons down to the haematoma, and this can of course bring on dementia symptons .
He also has lupus and this year has been into hospital 3 times, first with AT, he was put on tablets but seemed to have a very bad reaction then was told he has lupus which could have caused some of the above symptons.
I am seeing OP later today and will discuss some concerns with her. Husband has mental capacity and is desperate to get home. He insists he is on just vitamins but after such a big op, I find that hard to accept. He is even saying when he gets the discharge paperwork through, he won't wait for his medications and will get a taxi home rather than waiting for an amubulance - I can live with the latter, but worry very much about him not having his medications.
So in a nutshell, I don't know what I am dealing with and what is wrong with him. He also has gout and oedema. I do know trying to take care of him will mean walking on eggshells. I am 51 and he is 74.
any advice or even just sharing experiences would be appreciated very much.