Hello everyone,
I'm new to Talking Point and wondered whether anyone could provide a bit of advice or insight into their own experiences...I don't really know where else to go as I'm struggling to know what to do for the best.
My dad is a 'young' and physically fit 68 year old. He's always provided for his family and been the best dad in the world. He's struggling to come to terms with retiring and is still doing the odd day here and there but over the last few years his memory has slowly got worse. Anyone else probably wouldn't notice but mom and I do. It's got to a point where he's joking about it to me but not really talking to me about his fears/concerns - but I can tell that he's worried and anxious about it.
He confides in my mom, who is an absolute angel, and has said that he's worried about what the future holds and getting to a stage where he's dependent upon people. He's said he'd rather be dead than get to a point where he doesn't recognise his family. He's a proud and independent man who has always provided for us and looked after everyone else so it's understandable really.
Dad finally plucked up the courage to go to his GP, with my mom, where he discussed his fears and anxieties and she signed him off work and prescribed anti-depressants. This was about 6 months ago. In that initial visit to his GP she said that she would refer him for an assessment but has never followed up on this (and my dad has forgot all about it). Dad went to see the GP about an unrelated matter recently and when she asked him about how his memory was he told her it had got worse and she told him to take more anti-depressants!!
I want to do the right thing for my dad but don't know what that is:
Should I talk to him and encourage him to go for an assessment for his memory so that he at least has a hope of starting treatment and slowing down the process?
Will that make him feel like he's not coping and risk his 'brave face' turning into him giving up and ultimately deteriorating?
If I intervene, will that make him feel worse? Like I said he's a proud man but I want to see him get the best treatment possible (and I also want to provide some support for my mom).
Should I speak to his GP about my concerns/complaints about his treatment? (NB dad's GP is different to mine)
Sorry for all the questions but my head is all over the place.
Thank you for your support.
I'm new to Talking Point and wondered whether anyone could provide a bit of advice or insight into their own experiences...I don't really know where else to go as I'm struggling to know what to do for the best.
My dad is a 'young' and physically fit 68 year old. He's always provided for his family and been the best dad in the world. He's struggling to come to terms with retiring and is still doing the odd day here and there but over the last few years his memory has slowly got worse. Anyone else probably wouldn't notice but mom and I do. It's got to a point where he's joking about it to me but not really talking to me about his fears/concerns - but I can tell that he's worried and anxious about it.
He confides in my mom, who is an absolute angel, and has said that he's worried about what the future holds and getting to a stage where he's dependent upon people. He's said he'd rather be dead than get to a point where he doesn't recognise his family. He's a proud and independent man who has always provided for us and looked after everyone else so it's understandable really.
Dad finally plucked up the courage to go to his GP, with my mom, where he discussed his fears and anxieties and she signed him off work and prescribed anti-depressants. This was about 6 months ago. In that initial visit to his GP she said that she would refer him for an assessment but has never followed up on this (and my dad has forgot all about it). Dad went to see the GP about an unrelated matter recently and when she asked him about how his memory was he told her it had got worse and she told him to take more anti-depressants!!
I want to do the right thing for my dad but don't know what that is:
Should I talk to him and encourage him to go for an assessment for his memory so that he at least has a hope of starting treatment and slowing down the process?
Will that make him feel like he's not coping and risk his 'brave face' turning into him giving up and ultimately deteriorating?
If I intervene, will that make him feel worse? Like I said he's a proud man but I want to see him get the best treatment possible (and I also want to provide some support for my mom).
Should I speak to his GP about my concerns/complaints about his treatment? (NB dad's GP is different to mine)
Sorry for all the questions but my head is all over the place.
Thank you for your support.