Have been kept busy at work but since home can't settle. Will try and put thoughts into words - see if it helps.
BeckyJan, thank you, I keep going over and over your words as a mother - it has me in tears but you've hit a point I've never thought of (maybe as i only have brothers and sons) but so true as mothers WE would never want our children to hold onto guilt, Mum wouldn't have wanted that ever either.
You've all made me think,it all makes me realise the problem of showing emotion.I know I need a private area to remember and yes to grieve, the males I'm surrounded by make me feel ridiculous (rightly or wrongly) .
Pippa, thank you, you've helped me find a happier memory - she would have been proud of some of my mini achievemnets since losing her.
Sisteract, I wish my family mentioned her, I feel very alone but am searching for an answer, you're all helping.
The weekend she died was the weekend snowdrops came out - a friend gave me some and there was a tiny clump last year, maybe (I know it's too late for this year) I could plant a larger expanse of them, a mix of varieties.
Just typing this has helped me let go of some tears so thank you all for listening and caring. xxx